Living under a false pretense...



These kids are going to have a rude awakening when they realize that wearing Jordan's and Polos doesn't mean you're privileged and got it made in this world.. I wish parents would stop fronting. You're only hurting the kids...

I meet sooooo many teens who have so much "swag" and no conversation. Cute and handsome as buttons but have no drive and real direction for life. 

What's missing? A solid foundation maybe? 

I remember being an only child getting all the materials things I wanted. Living in the big brick house on the corner and all the kids telling me "you're so spoiled. You get everything you want."

I remember thinking, "if they really only knew........"

If you want to really be of value to your kids invest in them. Teach them the real meaning of life. Share your truth with them even the painful things. 

Before you do, start to work on yourself...

 I've been searching for an answer my whole life... At 26 I can finally say, I'm starting to get an understanding. But It took putting God FIRST and BELIEVING ... Not just knowing of Him but really taking out time to Know Him for myself...

Quit making Polo Jordan and Michael Kors richer..... 


I don't know maybe you are putting up for your child's education, rocking J's, carrying a Michael Kors bag with a food stamp card all at the same time with a plan.... 

I pray you do. But If you don't, I pray you seek God for an answer.....

Quit living under this false pretense that because you're covered in the latest trends you got it made. 

Quit pretending that you got all this money when you're really a paycheck away from being broke. 

Quit pretending that the abuse you receive in your relationship is somehow okay just because you can easily post a picture of you guys on social media all cuddled up.

 That's a false pretense and it's not okay! 
Get help!!!

Begin to really work towards ways to really no longer  be broke. 

As Iyanla Vanzant says, "Its time to do your work."

Been out of highschool 7yrs. Been to hell and back. Folks still in competition with who I USED to be. 

I haven't had a pair of J's since I was 17. Never will I rock  Michael Kors.  

If I was still silly enough to waste my money on a bag it would at least a Gucci..... But let me stop ranting and get to the point.......

One Sunday my Bishop preached from Acts 7:20-29

In Acts 7 Stephen is sharing Moses journey.... Everyone knows the story of Moses . He was born a slave but his mother sent him off into the lake so he wouldn't be killed like the other slave babies. The Ruler of Egypt daughter finds Moses and takes him in. Moses is raised as a privileged Egyptian when in reality he's actually supposed to be a slave...

In this particular text Moses discovers that his heart is drawn to the slaves "his people" but when he goes to save them they hate him instead..... 

All these years Moses was raised under this "false pretense" that he was someone that he really wasn't. When he discovered his truth his own people disowned him.

 For forty years he was left to wonder in the wilderness.....

Don't allow your kids to wonder around in this world lost living under a false pretense that the world tries to sell us....

Real freedom doesn't lye in your bank account, status, or location. 

Real Freedom lyes in Christ. 

Where the spirit of The Lord is there is freedom. 

Because Moses was raised under this false pretense he wondered around looking for his true identity afraid to trust that God was enough...  
 
Lets be real with ourselves and our children and stop living under this false pretense!!!!!

My story: I grew up living under this false pretense. Because I had all the material stuff everyone thought everything in my life was good. After a while I begin embracing this flawed truth that my cover up from designer labels, good grades, and popularity meant that things would eventually get better. 

But it never did and I went right down a path of destruction because I had no solid foundation. My value was in the mask I wore. I thought that people would hurt me more if they knew the pain I had built up inside. More than that I was told to keep things that bothered me a secret. "No one cares" "it's not a big deal" "it's all your fault"

When I tried to speak up about things I was immediately shut out or told "that's just kid stuff you'll get over it." 

I would be in my twenties when I finally began to really "get over it" but it would be after a long road of shame, pain, and many bad decisions.  

I know we've all been there. Instead of speaking your truth you cover it up. That has to stop sooner than later. Secrets left unresolved tend to have a way of coming out in different ways. In most times it's our behavior. 

The addict
The stripper
The overachiever 
The promiscuous 
The abuser
The victim
The bitter one

All more than likely have something in common: unresolved pain that has been covered up. 

I've made the decision to surrender to Christ and do my work!!


Will you?!?

Signed, 
Lost Girl Saved By Grace 

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