"But he Goes To Church"

"But he goes to church"

I fell for that same notion. “He goes to church.” I found myself in the same predicaments. But "he goes to church." I found myself still being manipulated. "But he goes to church.’’ I found myself still laying down next to a man whose last name I didn’t have. But ‘’he goes to church.’’ I found myself with child yet still a single woman in Gods eyes. "But he goes to church."

I got in church. I dedicated my life to Christ but I still didn’t know what to do. I just went with the flow for a little while. I asked questions. I tried to seek Godly counsel from people in the church. All I got was "your alright baby just join the choir." "you alright just don’t hang with those ladies their bad news." "Your good just pay your tithes and building funds." Inside I was screaming "THAT’S NOT ENOUGH!”

I prayed but I didn’t know how to hear from God yet. I wasn’t in church a good six months before I found myself in a situation that I hadn’t planned for. I was pregnant and left alone. Then they started pointing and whispering and I felt like the little girl in Scarlet Letter' with the big red "A". Something spoke to me saying, "try God for yourself." Later I found out was the Holy Spirit.

I picked up my bible and started reading The Word on my own. The conviction was so strong there was no contemplating I had to let go and get rid of some things in my life.

BUT HE GOES TO CHURCH.

TODAY I NOW know anybody can go to church. Prideful and manipulative men walk through the church doors, sit in the pews, in the choir stands, musicians, ministers, and all. I must guard my heart, mind, and body which is a temple of God not of man. I found out there is a difference between going to church and being a part of the church.

That’s great he goes to church but you need someone who has a personal relationship with Christ. You need a personal relationship with Christ too not just a membership at a church congregation. Our body is a temple of what Christ and the church represents. With Christ comes integrity. Integrity is when you can be the same where ever you go. No more compromise. People will claim to go to church even brag about it but go home to live in sin and battle with secret addictions. They look good on the outside and attend church like all is well but no true healing has manifested. They have no real relationship with Christ. They are people of pride and ignorance who are secretly dying away. Being in church doesn’t save you. Believing in Jesus Christ does. When you truly believe you will start to obey what you’re being taught from The Word. The bible teaches sex outside of marriage is immoral.

"For of this you can be sure: No immoral, impure, or greedy person- such as a person is an idolater- has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God. LET NO ONE DECEIVE YOU WITH EMPTY WORDS, for because of such things God’s wrath comes on those who are disobedient. Therefore do not be partners with them. For you were once darkness but now you are light in the Lord. Live as children of light, (for the fruit of the light consists in all goodness, righteousness, and truth) and find out what pleases the Lord." Ephesians 5:5-10

Thank God for his grace and mercy! By Faith in Christ we are to believe and act accordingly. But you will realize like I did. I can’t do this by myself. I needed a helper. I needed self-control. The Holy Spirit will be your helper. The Holy Spirit will give you the power to resist. If you stumble or fall get up!

The same power that Jesus had to be sinless is the same power we have inside of our body which is a temple to stop falling prey to empty word and false promises from men. It all starts with building a relationship with Christ not going to church.

Yes he goes to church. Is he encouraging you to keep God commandments to wait until you guys are married? Or is he pressing you to fulfill his own personal commandments or even your own desires are pressing you. Yes he goes to church but is he a part of the Kingdom of the Most High God or is he still wavering amongst the lost ones just filling up a seat in the congregation? Are you still wavering amongst the lost ones and haven’t fully surrendered to Christ? It’s time to take a stand and take back our freedom.

It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery. Galatians 5:1

If you’re single and reading this I encourage you to not be so hung up and discouraged about being single. This is your gift from God to spend this time getting to know him better and discovering who you are truly called to be. This is your time to elevate your gifts and talents to uplift the Kingdom and bring God glory. Don’t rush things like I did in the beginning of my walk with Christ. Real love has no expiration date so your guy should be willing to wait.

If your like me and have messed up and are ready to make a change go to God in prayer and repent. It’s never too late to start living according to God’s will. Divorce rates are rising. Single parenting households are on the rise. Don’t go grab a ticket like the rest of the world and be just another number.

Grab your bible. Get on your knees and pray. Accept this new freedom Christ has blessed us with. Don’t go back to what brought you to church in the first place. A broken heart.

Maybe your right where I was at one point lying next to my "church boy" knowing and feeling that it wasn’t right but unaware of where to start or how to fix it. So let me be like a big sister to you today and tell you the truth.

GET UP SIS!!!!! Maybe you don’t want to let him go. Have a talk with him. He may be willing to make that change with you and he could have a desire to have a more authentic relationship with Christ but be just as lost as you on what to do. If he’s not willing to elevate with you trust God and walk away. God plans for your life is much bigger than a prideful and compromising man.

So ask yourself, “Do I want to just be a church goer or a Christ believer and follower?”

"Am I ready to heal my brokenness or do I want to keep breaking my heart into more pieces?"

A Lesson Learned. My Celibacy Journey.