"Choosing Celibacy"

Being celibate means putting God first and trusting him in ALL that I do. 

Being celibate means I will no longer be physically connected to a man other than my husband. 

Being celibate means breaking soul ties and any curses from past relationships.

Being celibate means waiting on my Husband to become one with him and grow in unity together under God.

Being celibate means embracing my singleness using my time to serve The Lord verses hooking up with temporary pleasures just cause I'm lonely or have that urge from the depths of lust.

Being sexually active ties you to a person more spiritually than you ever know. Issues that your sexual partner has  start to become your issues as well. That feeling you get when your having sex with someone is that connection I'm talking about. You can't see it but you feel it and know it's there. You know you need to end it but that feeling makes its hard to do. It's called Soul ties.

 When you have sex outside of marriage you give a piece of yourself to someone but you also get a piece of them that was never suppose to be apart of you to begin with. 

Scripture teaches he who unites himself  with a prostitue becomes one with a prostitue. 

Scripture also says a man is to leave home and become one with his WIFE. 

That's leaves us in two categories but today it's many categories and labels. Girlfriend, Baby Mama, Boo Thangs, Side chicks,  sex buddy and whatever else they have come up with nowadays.

But your not a prostitute. Maybe you don't walk the streets and exchange sex for money. But maybe you are aware of these scenarios:

Do you keep a sexual relationship open with your child's father?

Do you keep allowing your boo thang to sleep over cause in all honesty you want something more but being heartbroken before you choose to keep it just about sex since a committed relationship comes with too many issues?

 Or maybe your afraid to let him know your true desires so you play it his way.

Do you sleep with him just so he will help you out on bills every now and then knowing that you have no intentions of being serious with this "friend"?

The dictionary explains prostitute as this not only a woman who exchanges her body for money but also:One who sells one's abilities, talent, or name for an unworthy purpose.

It's an Unworthy purpose for us to have sex with someone who isn't our spouse. I can't think of one good excuse for it to be okay. Is your sexual needs more important to you than being apart of the Kingdom of God?

 "There is a way that seems right to man but it only leads to death."- Proverbs 14:12

But we will use all these excuses I listed as ammunition to continue to living in sin.When you  can instead give it to God and he can supply all those needs. 

Your children need a Dad but do they know about their Heavenly Father who will provide all needs even when their earthly  father forsakes them?

Your lonely? Join church.

 already in church? Become an active member start using your gifts and talents.

Low on cash? Where is your faith? Didn't Jesus tell us not to worry he will supply all? You may have a gift or talent that God has blessed you with and can start your own business or maybe just start off part time just for extra cash instead of giving into sexual sin.

The Holy Spirit is our helper your body houses that beautiful spirit but if we misuse the body we misuse the Holy Spirit. We get so caught up in the flesh most of us don't even know or understand about this special helper that's been placed in us when we accept Christ. The Holy Spirit gives you power and authority over the enemy to resist him and say NO! But Everything is so clouded and hidden behind all the issues that follow being sexually active with the wrong one or ones. 

I've only been  celibate for a little over a year before that I had been sexually active since I was 14! I always dated older guys and in some instance I remember saying "no" and my boyfriend at the time continuing and taking my body against my will. Since then Sexual immorality has been a struggle of mine for years. I can't remember if I was sexually molested as a child. My way of thinking has always been tainted and wrong from the beginning. I had so much baggage I couldn't see the light. Even after I accepted Christ I kept living the same way until God convicted and revealed his truth to me. It's been hard especially with my past and me knowing this loneliness can easily be avoided if I just do what I've always done which was giving in to a man. But I know what I want now. I believe and know I deserve Gods best for my life. I want something that's going to last. I want to share my beauty from the inside out with a man who is God and mines only. I want to share my whole life with him and grow old with him. No more overnight hypes. No more late night creeping. No more giving in. I choose to wait on God. I choose to cleanse myself of all unrighteousness and put on the FULL armor of God. I couldn't do that with a guilty conscience and live in sin I tried. 

The only way is to be authentic and stand on his word. Even if I never get married I'm still in his will. My life has been surrendered to his will. Now the Holy Spirit can do the work in and through me. This is why I chose celibacy: what's your reason? 

How many homegirls do you have that still sleeps with her Baby Daddy knowing he ain't trying to do right? Anybody watch love and hip hop? I tuned in for the new season first episode. There was a guy living with his baby mama but married to another woman that Baby Mama knows nothing about. I'm not tuning back into that cause I already know the ending. HELL! But do you see my point? It's not worth it ladies start caring and take control of your life!!!! 

MY STORY

When I made the decision to practice celibacy I was pregnant with my daughter. I told her Dad we were no longer going to have sex until we officially got married since that's what he initially said the plans were. His response: "I'm losing my benefits because your getting all Godly?" To make a long story short he's not in her life. To know that the only way for my daughter to know her Dad I must shack up, have unwanted sex, supply him money, and be ignorant to the truth that he probably was never going to marry me appauls me. But because my thinking was so clouded and I compromised my daughter is  left Daddy-less. It's not right but it's consequence we pay when we choose our way verses Gods way. I wouldn't wish my situation upon a worst enemy. 

THE FOOLISHNESS STOPS HERE!!!!!

A lot of the pain and suffering we have stems from bad choices and living out of Gods will! But you don't have to continue living that way. When you Follow Christ you will still have pain and suffering at times but now your standing on his promises from his Word and in the end comes many blessings and God Glory. Living out of his will you already know the result is hell you just don't know when. Close you legs. Pray and repent. Choose life. Choose Jesus. 

Accept his grace and his mercy. Start New People!

Blessings from, "Lost Girl Saved By Grace"