Single and Faithful

Even when you are single you should practice being faithful.  Seek God wholeheartedly.Its time to start removing those distractions that draw you away from God. Wrong relationships and temporary relations. Its hard but it can be done one day at a time and even if you mess up get up seek forgiveness and try again.

Jesus is number one in your life now. Old things have passed (beliefs and character) and the new is here. Ladies its time to close your legs to all men that is not your husband regardless of what ties he holds to you be it your first love, baby daddy, boo thang, or the guy who helps you financially from time to time. No matter how the world justifies it in Gods eyes sex outside marriage is immoral and a sin. The bible hasn't been edited or revised.Read the bible and you won't find it  anywhere.

"But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality."~Ephesians 5:3


The bible also says,"Do not give dogs what is sacred;do not throw your pearls to pigs. If you do they may trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces."~Matthew 7:6


Most times men show us signs early on and we ignore them and allow our desires to rule us. We have to stop ignoring the signs or "be torn to pieces". All men aren't dogs.Women have to stop being so naive and gullible and learn to appreciate ourselves more! We hold on and forgive and forgive while he continues to mess up and hurt you without any remorse. We hold on when they show us every reason why we need to let go!

Mark 10:6-9
"But at the beginning of creation God 'made them male and female.'  'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife,  and the two will become one flesh.' So they are no longer two, but one.  Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate."


 Dont let people or society tell you that its too late to change. Its never too late to confess with your mouth repent with your heart and seek forgiveness from God and turn away from sexual sin. Is it difficult? Of COURSE when sex has become so casual and your accustomed to just giving in to your lustful desires. You may be at a point in your life where you are tired of being disappointed and let down. Your ready for the real thing. Real love. Everybody wants to be loved and in a loving relationship and with God on your side it is possible no matter who you are.
Its time to move away from the denial phase. Quit lying to yourself saying that your okay with being somebodies "forever girlfriend" "boo thang" "one night stand" or "sideline". When in all honesty you know you want more but because you've decided to believe the lie you now settle like the rest of the world to a life full of relations with no value or glory to God.

I remember not seeing my baggage as a blessing so when a man approached me and showed interest,"Im thinking hes the one. Let me not miss this!."

 Then reality begin to sink in and I realized some Men prey. Some Men manipulate. Some Men see the baggage you already have from your past and when you allow the WRONG man into your life he will have no problem adding or creating new baggage to your life; another heart break story, a child to raise alone, or just another episode of meaningless sex. Some Men see that you don't care about yourself so why should they care? They watch you dress half naked and parade your body around on social sites without a care in the world. Some Men see weak and easy and they'll sleep with you,call you girlfriend, have a baby with you in all with no intention of marrying you. Some Men feel they have all their young adult life to play around break hearts and make  mistakes with gullible women and have no regrets or remorse.Why? Because they know in the beginning their intentions and it doesn't include marrying you.  Its harsh but its the truth. The truth that he won't tell you but will gossip to his friends and other women about. When your not around he calls you everything but a child of God or his woman. Some Men don't want to commit to you cause they see how you act while your single (busy body) and you want him to believe that marriage will change you?

Why was all the men that approached me this way?
Brokenness attracts brokenness
Wholeness attracts wholeness



Its time to repent, seek forgiveness, keep God first, study, and practice his ways and stop compromising and giving up your jewel just because he says"he wants you". Always remember lust rushes and real love is willing to wait. Jesus paid the highest price to save you and set you free from slavery of sin.  People are slaves to whatever has mastered them-2Peter 2:19. If a man loved you according to Christ he would be willing to pay the price that is pleasing and acceptable. Marriage! Marriage is a sacrifice! Don't go run off and just marry either and become a foolish mans wife and vice versa that's a whole other conversation!Men of God marry they don't settle for manipulating weak and gullible women. Women of God don't compromise and become sex slaves just because she desires a man or can't control her own lustful desires.

When you allow sin not just sexual but any sin to rule over your life it hinders your growth in the Kingdom and life. Instead edifying the Kingdom your deep in sin and moving further away from God each day.  So Stop letting randoms tamper with the temple. Gods temple. Your precious body.Let God help you fight this battle. I did.

My Journey
I made a huge transition to practice celibacy. No more sex outside of marriage. It was one difficult thing to do but with conviction I received in my life and to get to a place of true healing this is what God lead me to do.I wasnt able to heal properly before because I would either stay and try to work out the relationship or jump right into a new one. This time I couldnt run from my problems. The guy I was no longer dating  but pregnant by went to church with me. I would see him every Sunday and if walking around pregnant with my third child wasnt hard enough already. Now I had to walk around pregnant by myself with no one to defend me but God. I felt like I had a big A on my chest.I was use to being cut off from men after they used me but this was a whole new level of embarrasement for me since I couldn't run or hide from my issue. I had to see him often and face the fact literally that I was only in this situation because I put his words and desires before MY GOD and MY beliefs.  All his "I want to marry you" and "your the one" was yet another lie. I stumbled but I didnt give up or let my anger win. I drew closer to God. I decided to not let another man make a fool of me.The closer I drew to God the more he revealed to me the ERROR of MY WAYS and planted seeds of hope that I could overcome sexual sin and stop allowing it to rule over my life.

This is a one day at a time thing for me cause I'm still human and capable of falling at anytime. Stepping away from sex has actually brought a lot of clarity into my life. If I had not took the step to get better  I wouldn't be able to share or shed light in someone eles life who may be having the same difficulty because I would be still living and stuck in those shameful situations. I guess you can say I was fed up. I had to do something I never done to reach a place I've never been in.  I'm actually happy and content single something I've never experienced before. I've always desired companionship and was willing to do whatever to have it.

BUT GOD revealed to me that I was overcome by lust and not love. Know the difference between the two cause you may be wasting away at lust but calling it "love". God is love. God is holy. Does your relationship glorify God? If the answer is no and your sick and tired of being sick and tired I pray you join me. Always Remember, genuine change can be made when its for and from God. Choose to do better so God can be glorified in your life. Don't change to get or keep a man. Change so you can make God proud.

~Single N Celibate
   ~Putting God First
 ~IDieDaily
~Replacing Hood Principles for Kingdom Principles